What’s in store in today’s newsletter:
Manifesting my dream group chat
ONE SPOT LEFT (!!!) to learn how to manifest a life you love
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One of my ~*ZoNeS oF gEnIuS*~ is writing a cold email that gets opened and responded to (well, most of the time, lol).
I’ve gotten every single one of my jobs this way and have absolutely no qualms about popping into a CEO’s inbox and pitching myself.
Recently, though, I’ve decided to wield my powers differently 🪄
For the past couple years I’ve been inspired by , who has made a name (and substack) for herself around reaching out with intention, making connections, and building relationships through the art of a Reach Out email (a cold email’s much cooler sister).
The premise is this:
“Dream jobs, deep romances, meaningful friendships, great ideas, all started with one person bold and curious enough to reach out to another.” - Carly Valancy
When I think about my dream friend group, it includes some of the amaaaazing people I have found through social media. Many of whom I have followed for years but have never really connected with other than a comment here or there.
I wanted to change that.
I wanted to manifest relationships with people that I admire from afar, am obsessed with (in a non-stalker way), and whose vibe I enjoy; in other words, my dream group chat.
Reaching out 💌
I decided to Reach Out to three extraordinary women. Writers, artists, and deep thinkers. Women who’ve expanded my world and inspired me. Who make things I love:
(aka @maryoliversdrunkcousin on IG), one of my FAVORITE poetsCarrie Anne James, creator of French is Beautiful, my favorite French language & lifestyle resource
Laura Rubin, founder of the journaling company Allswell Creative, my self-proclaimed mentor-from-afar and journaling guide
As I sat down to write each of them a note, I was nervous!!! I wanted my words to be perfect. I felt like I had ONE SHOT and didn’t want to screw it up. My perfectionism was giving major “pick me!” energy until I reminded myself that what makes a Reach Out email “perfect” is sending an email only I could write and only they could receive.
I hit send and tried to restrain myself from refreshing my inbox every 5 minutes.
You’ve got (no) mail 😔
A day passes with no response.
No big deal, these girls are b-u-s-y! Laura’s writing a book, Lyndsay has a ‘lil bebe, and it’s summer in France so Carrie’s probably en vacances. I’m sure they’ll get back to me soon.
A week passes.
Maybe my email is broken? *Sends self a test email* No, it’s working! It’s okay, be cool.
A month passes.
At this point I’m pretty sure no one is going to respond. They’ll just forever be the answers I give when someone asks, “Who would you invite to your dream dinner party?”
You’ve (finally!) got mail 💌
AND THEN.
On September 3, I wake up to a delightful email from Laura (whom I initially emailed on May 31!)
Then on September 10, up pops a beautiful note from Carrie Anne in Paris (original email date: July 29).
And on September 12, I hear from Lyndsay with the most enthusiastic response (I originally messaged her on August 7).
Ummm… what?!
How is it that all three ladies responded within a weekish of each other after hearing crickets for months?
Besties, I still get surprised at how (and when!) things show up for me. It’s always a reminder that I can’t control how or when my manifestations will appear (or what they’ll look like).
My MO (manifestation operandi 😉) is to continue to show up, which looks like:
Prioritizing joy, satisfaction, and doing things I love (a la my Human Design)
Journaling for clarity by processing my experiences and emotions, organizing my thoughts, and dreaming up the future I’m creating
Subconsciously reprogramming limiting beliefs
Taking action supported by new thoughts and beliefs
If I can draw any line from point A to point B, it’s that these responses all came through around the time I got really intentional about relaxing into joy (instead of feeling guilty).
And that’s the thing about manifestation. You could be working on aligning your thoughts and feelings with something you desire, and then *poof* a completely unrelated manifestation will come through along the way.
That’s the magic (and the mystery!) of it. ✨
And with that, I’m off to chat with one of the lovely women that took me up on manifestation coaching (there’s ONE SPOT left — deets below!). And later today I’m journaling with Laura (!!). The vibes are VIBING today and it feels amazing!
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ALISON YES THIS IS SO FUCKING GREAT!!!! Love everything about these connections wow