Who would turn down a free trip?
Me. Well, old me.
What’s in store in today’s newsletter:
Why Little Miss High Maintenance almost turned down a free trip
*NEW* series: Manifestations from the community 🪄
ONE SPOT LEFT (!!!) to learn how to manifest a life you’re obsessed with
Reminder: Journal, together is on Wednesdays (this week’s is fall-themed! 🍂)
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(I’ll preface by saying that this convo was *literally* a few days after I started to subconsciously reprogram the affirmation, “I always have new opportunities to travel.” — !!!)
“Do you want to come to Vegas with us? We have a reservation at The Cosmopolitan.”
My parents had just booked a 'lil holiday vacay and were asking me if I wanted to tag along.
“Mmm…” I hesitated. I’m usually a Wynn-or-bust kinda girl.
(And before you come after me, please know that I spent the majority of my career working in the luxury hospitality space and hotels are rly important to me!)
My inner voice (sounding a lot like Disgust from Inside Out) piped up:
The Cosmopolitan?? If I’m “in my worth” shouldn’t I not settle for anything less than my very specific vision of this manifestation? It’s not the exact hotel I wanted.
Besties, I was about to turn down a free trip because it wasn’t the exact hotel I had in mind. 🫣 Why? Because I used to follow a manifestation practice that would have labeled this situation a “test” from the universe.
A test of my self worth: would I settle for something less than I thought I deserved?
(Thus signaling to the universe that I’m “not ready” or “worthy” of my perfect manifestation 🙄 In other words, manifestation fail.)
Old me would have mentally exhausted myself with the “should I or shouldn’t I go?” debate. And you know what?
I would have said NO. (I know. I know). 🫨
I would have said, “I’m a Wynn girlie and won’t stay anywhere else!” and stayed home.
That type of mental anguish, paranoia that the universe is “testing” you, and feeling like you have to get it absolutely right OR ELSE your manifestation won’t come, is exactly why I wanted to create a manifestation practice that feels GOOD.
I snapped myself out of this thought spiral and told the voice in my head to zip it 🤐
After a beat, I responded with an emphatic “YES!”
Because despite what that old narrative would have me think, my manifestation was SHOWING UP. I almost walked away from it because it didn't look exactly like I thought it would.
And that’s one of the most important things to keep in mind when you’re manifesting.
You can’t control exactly how your manifestations will look when they show up.
Sure, you may be looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes. But maybe your manifestation is trying to come through via your BFF, who wants to set you up with a guy she thinks is perfect for you (a CPA, 5’8, brown eyes). Are you really going to pass up the love of your life because he doesn’t look like he just walked off the set of The Wolf of Wall Street?
Or take
(fellow manifesting girlie and copywriting queen — seriously, if you have a service-based biz, hire her!). I’ve been following her for years on IG. In January she posted that she was going to save money to buy a house on Cape Cod.How did her manifestation show up?
Wellllll, she just bought a house (we love to see women buying their own homes!) and her parents bought a house on Cape Cod a couple months ago (!) Since she’s an only child, eventually the house on the Cape will become hers, so that’s TWO houses she manifested!! All because she was open to different possibilities.
Listen, all I’m saying is to keep in mind the phrase, “strong desires loosely held” when it comes to manifestation. Be flexible. Let the universe surprise you! Life has a way of working out better than you could have ever dreamed of.
How do I not become an absolute control freak when it comes to manifestation?
I go back to how I want my manifestation to feel.
If you’re in my 1:1 manifestation coaching, one of the exercises I take you through is identifying how your manifestations will make you feel. When I think of traveling, the most prevalent feeling is FUN 🎉.
As I considered this trip, I thought of all the FUN I could have (especially during the holiday season!). I mentally started putting an itinerary together that included:
Christmas afternoon tea at Four Seasons Las Vegas
The BEST fish & chips at Gordon Ramsay’s
Roasting s’mores and drinking hot chocolate at Green Valley Ranch’s Winter Terrace
Getting cutie donuts at Saint Honore
Seeing the Christmas decorations at the Bellagio’s Conservatory & Botanical Gardens
And suddenly a dreamy trip started to emerge. I was positively buzzing with excitement, which, as a Generator in Human Design is a huge green flag! 💚
(And yes, I am fully aware that my version of a Vegas vacation is not normal, LOL)
The feeling of FUN that I was able to curate in anticipation of this trip completely shifted my energetic vibration from self-doubt and sabotage to joy and gratitude.
📝 Now grab your journal and write:
How will I feel when I (insert your manifestation)?
No need to set a timer, just list out how you think you’ll feel when you finally get that thing.
🪄 Now you have a list of feelings and emotions that are, arguably, way more important to you than the thing itself. And now you’ve told your brain to look for people/activities/experiences that will induce those types of feelings and emotions.
Manifestation. Not magic, but magical.
Manifestations from the group chat
Hearing about your manifestations brings me just as much — if not MORE — joy than my own. I thought it would be cool to see what my community is manifesting, so each week I’ll share a couple highlights.
Jamie manifested 18 new subscribers to her email list because she was in such a state of ~flow~ in her work this week. Slay.
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I know what it’s like to sit on the sidelines and scroll past photos of others taking selfies in First Class on their way to the Amalfi Coast or building empires from ideas you’ve had yourself!
Why not you, friend?
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